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Anyone got the same issue as me? Bascially everytime a guy goes near my mrs I sit watching everythign reading all their body language working out what theyre thinking, I can tell that some of the lads we know want to try it on with my mrs and everytime we meet friends I just get so on edge and protective over her, is this normal?

Also if any has suffered with this in the past how the hell do you get round it? It's doing my head in and I will end up pushing her away an I really don't want that :/ In all honesty I am not one to play women or mess them about If I am i na relationship its usually for the long haul, I am a bit of a hopeless romantic really lol.

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Yeah I know it's just I need to know how to get over them. Pisses me off I know one of the lads we know always wants her he fancies the pants off her :/ and it's like I watch him asif he's undressing her with his eyes. He's so cocky aswell and thinks he's something from what I have been told by others he's a bit of a player too. My biggest issue is from being backstabbed and cheated by friends an girlfriends over the years it's so hard for me to trust people so I am always on edge.
 

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I'd say it's closer to jealousy than being over protective to be honest. Not much you can do about that other than not acting like a ball bag unecessarily.
 

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Think off it like this, if they keep trying and she keeps going home with you - you win.

When my mrs gets chatted up by blokes i think its great, it gives me peace and quiet to have my beer, she feels good and attractive and when we get home i get some good loving :dogpile:
 

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I'd say it's closer to jealousy than being over protective to be honest. Not much you can do about that other than not acting like a ball bag unecessarily.
Hmmm I guess it is, just really gets to me :/ wish it would stop, like I have no issue with silly banter like the thread of you shagging my mrs I find it amusing I never feel threatened by women I just know what lads can be like, a lot of them don't give a crap about hurting people they just use girls for a shagg and it f**ks me of. And hmm I try not too, we have spoke to each other about it a few times now. As occasionally she feels jealousy towards my ex's for some reason, although I don't talk to any of them.
 

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Think off it like this, if they keep trying and she keeps going home with you - you win.

When my mrs gets chatted up by blokes i think its great, it gives me peace and quiet to have my beer, she feels good and attractive and when we get home i get some good loving :dogpile:
Yeah I guess you are right on that one, just feels liek I am waiting for the day she doesn't come home with me.

And haha fair enough mate sounds like you and your mrs seem to work really well there lol :)
 

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Mate my new girlfriend is a water treatment specialist and works in different sites in an all male enviroment..

They all banter with her and joke with each other but it does not bother me at all.

Its all down to the magic word of trust.. I trust my girlfriend and in the 5 years she has worked there only one guy has crossed the line and pinched her bum and she quickly put him in his place.

Of course I know that guys check her out and flirt with her (she always has a story to tell about this lol ) , but at the end of the day she has chosen to be with me...

Your girlfriend has done the same so just enjoy it :)

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To be honest i have been like this in the past with an EX, so much so almost everytime we went out we ended up splitting up for a week! YES it was that stupid and childish!

I realise now it was more jealousy than me being protective! I guess at the time i had spent a good few years messing around, and assumed everyone acted the same.. Truth is she was an emmence flurt and loved the attention, the whole time i was with her she never once did anything wrong.. It was all me


I have since moved on and now have a girl who I trust 110%, yes she can be cheeky but thats as far as it goes. I know we are together for the right reasons, as much as i look and flurt with other girls all the time.. She knows i wouldn't stray.. and it works both ways

If she has given you know reason to doubt her, then dont!
There is no easy fix, No simple method its just about taking your time..

NOW ENOUGH BEING SERIOUS... here is my fav cat video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CSK1D3bZhRs
 

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Mate my new girlfriend is a water treatment specialist and works in different sites in an all male enviroment..

They all banter with her and joke with each other but it does not bother me at all.

Its all down to the magic word of trust.. I trust my girlfriend and in the 5 years she has worked there only one guy has crossed the line and pinched her bum and she quickly put him in his place.

Of course I know that guys check her out and flirt with her (she always has a story to tell about this lol ) , but at the end of the day she has chosen to be with me...

Your girlfriend has done the same so just enjoy it :)

Dan
I probably would not be able to deal with that lol

And yeah I thin ktrust is the big word indeed, I trust her just not all the guys we know, just I guess I know what they are all like, the scary thing is one of our male friedns lieks both of us in that way it's quite scary when everytime I kiss my mrs he stares the s**t at us an if he can;t see properly he will move so he can :O And yeah that's how I got to look at it I guess, jsut got to try ignore the worry and get on with it. I think it's cause I really don't to lose her I try so hard not to do things to keep her that I will end up pushing her away, think I should probably like calm down more and what not, thanks for the advice everyone :) and haha great video :)
 

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From a female point of view -and I dont mean to upset you in any way -nothing worse than a jealous boyfriend. I had one in the past and hes now my ex. She obviously wants to be with you or she wouldnt be with you -simple as that. Got to learn to trust -without trust you have nothing.

Its obvious she means a lot to you though -best of luck :)
 

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To be honest i have been like this in the past with an EX, so much so almost everytime we went out we ended up splitting up for a week! YES it was that stupid and childish!

I realise now it was more jealousy than me being protective! I guess at the time i had spent a good few years messing around, and assumed everyone acted the same.. Truth is she was an emmence flurt and loved the attention, the whole time i was with her she never once did anything wrong.. It was all me


I have since moved on and now have a girl who I trust 110%, yes she can be cheeky but thats as far as it goes. I know we are together for the right reasons, as much as i look and flurt with other girls all the time.. She knows i wouldn't stray.. and it works both ways

If she has given you know reason to doubt her, then dont!
There is no easy fix, No simple method its just about taking your time..

NOW ENOUGH BEING SERIOUS... here is my fav cat video
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CSK1D3bZhRs
Hmmm thats what I am worried will happen :/ and I am glad you moved on mate and are all sorted and yeah I guess if theres no reason to doubt her why should I doubt her. It's jsut my head being silly and yeah I think like you said in time I iwll slowly get over it, she said simialr about her jelousy over my ex's we have only been together 6 months and she said in time she will stop getting jealous of them but because we only been together 6 months she still feels I am not fully hers and worries she will lose me too. which now writing that gives me the impression she feels same about me.
 

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From a female point of view -and I dont mean to upset you in any way -nothing worse than a jealous boyfriend. I had one in the past and hes now my ex. She obviously wants to be with you or she wouldnt be with you -simple as that. Got to learn to trust -without trust you have nothing.

Its obvious she means a lot to you though -best of luck :)
Yeah I know I think I p*ss her off at times with it and at that point I should know to just leave it. And yeah thats true lol. Jsut got to stop not trusting people

And yeah she means the world to me :) and thanks
 

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Its a tricky one bud and if it is more about being Jealous then you can get help before it ruins things..

Try chatting to a counceller and they might be able to help :)

And my girlfriend actually cracks me up with some of her storys lol.. she was cleaning a big water tank the other week and peeled a white sticky substance off the side that looked like something naughty..One guy made a comment and made her blush ;)

Remember she must trust you, so I think its only right to give that trust back :)
 

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Dude get yourself down to the optician and get an eye transplant!
The Green eyed monster will eat you up inside if you dont learn to deal with it.
At the end of the day she was looking out for you in your other thread so obviously care about you so dont go screwing it up by being a jealous guy!
Haha i hate the green eyed monster its annoying. And yeah thats true also I think it's jsut me being stupid really and I will try my best not to mess it up :)
 

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Its a tricky one bud and if it is more about being Jealous then you can get help before it ruins things..

Try chatting to a counceller and they might be able to help :)

And my girlfriend actually cracks me up with some of her storys lol.. she was cleaning a big water tank the other week and peeled a white sticky substance off the side that looked like something naughty..One guy made a comment and made her blush ;)

Remember she must trust you, so I think its only right to give that trust back :)
Yeah I know my parents have always suggested councellors to me but because of a past incident with a councillor I have never let them in again unfortunately. But I think I need to let that past issue go really an allow people in :)

And haha oh dear lol well atleast you get to enjoy the stories :) I got one the other day that really annoyed me, theres a lad she knwos and he acts gayer than gay and I think really hes not sure if hes straight or waht which I have no problems if he is gay I dont judge anyone in that way but he acts it so he can get near all the girls, liek other day he was askign my mrs about her tits and then decides to sticker a sticker on one an I jsut see it as an excuse to get a good feel. I have no problem peopel talkign about them or looking but that second yo umake contact its crossing the line.

And you are right on that I think I really need to build lal my trust in people back up
 

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Glad I could help mate

Plus as Mandyn said, girls like confident men who trust them :)

Me and Evie joke alot about it, and she calls me her soft office fairy and I call her my buff van driving dude lol.

Also I do martial arts and do train with alot of ladies and my girlfriend does not bat an eyelid. I would have an issue if she got jealous with me for something I love doing,.

PM me anytime if you need a chat mate :)
 
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