Skyline Owners Forum banner

1 - 20 of 29 Posts

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #1
As above really,

Feeling whipped lately the wife giving me grief about not having any money and due to her pure hatred of my 32 she asks me everyday if anyone has bought it :(

I've had hardly any sleep and in a mood which has made me sit here thinking about how little i have of my own I'm not complaining about what WE have as a couple because i know its hard nowa days for people our age to get what WE have like buying a house and what not

YOU see when i left the RAF i moved to north wales away from all my family and friends to be with my now wife who wouldnt move away from her parents and friends. Even when we were looking to buy a house it had to be close enough to her lot however my lot are in blackpool :/ meaning i hardly see them to top it off half of her mates live in the village who all share her view about my noisey heap, as for my "mates" erm well yeah they are...

I love my wife and wouldnt change her for the world I just need to join a knitting club or sommin to make some friends lol
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,496 Posts
I'm going to be honest, I hope this doesn't offend you but your missus sounds ****ing selfish!

Is selling your 32 your own choice or something she's guilt tripped you into? The whole you moving closer to her so she can stay close to her family is pretty ridiculous too. Relationships are about give and take, you each contribute so you can both gain and from the way I've read your comment it sounds more one sided.

My advice, give her a slap and tell her to stop being a *****. Maybe don't slap her but have you tried telling her what you've said here?
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
436 Posts
not good mate.. think ya need a serious chat with her... it ain't gonna work unless your BOTH happy!!! i am pretty sure you don't want to sell your 32 so DON'T... i am certain you will regret it if you do.




Sent from my GT-I9003 using Tapatalk
 

·
Banned
Joined
·
4,153 Posts
Defo need a bit of giv and take in a relationship she does sound bit selfish , if your not in need of cash from sale of car keep it and explain how you feel ,or ask her to part withsomthing of value that is hers.
 

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #5
Lol i wont be slapping her about lol.

It does seem one sided alot of the time but i like a quiet life so wont agrue lol i have advertised the car to keep her happy but i havent accepted an offer and wont sell to any "drifted" or breaker basically tryin to keep it
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,496 Posts
But it shouldn't be like that. You don't argue back because you want an easy life and she probably knows that so she does it more because she knows you'll give in.
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,496 Posts
Clearly.

Without getting all gay or emotional, I used to be like that, I had an ex (note the EX part) who used to walk all over me. He did what he liked, with who he liked, when he liked and I never said a thing. He chose who I spoke to, where I went, what I wore, etc and then one day I just decided I'd had enough and walked. Nobody should have the right to tell you where you can and can't live or what you can and can't drive, who wants to live every aspect of their life under the rule of somebody else?

If you just carry on you'll feel the same way tomorrow, next month and next year.
 

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #9
Its not all bad tho :/ she doesnt play away (she wouldnt) i just need to try make more for myself eg get some friends lol
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
881 Posts
Clearly.

Without getting all gay or emotional, I used to be like that, I had an ex (note the EX part) who used to walk all over me. He did what he liked, with who he liked, when he liked and I never said a thing. He chose who I spoke to, where I went, what I wore, etc and then one day I just decided I'd had enough and walked. Nobody should have the right to tell you where you can and can't live or what you can and can't drive, who wants to live every aspect of their life under the rule of somebody else?

If you just carry on you'll feel the same way tomorrow, next month and next year.
+1

There's no guarantee it will end up in an argument, just get your point across and maybe she'll realise that it is a bit one-sided. There's no use building up a lot of stress on yourself to avoid an argument, relationships require input from both of you and it sounds like you're already having trouble with her. Don't have a go, just put your point across that you want something for yourself seeing as you have stayed nearer her part of the world. It's all about compromise.

Hope it gets resolved easily and peacefullly :)
 

·
Stoke-on-Trent
Joined
·
3,110 Posts
You need stand up for ya self dude, as said it should be an equal partnership, and from what youve said it does seem one sided. I like a quiet life myself and my lady nags me a lot sometimes as all women do . But theres a line where she knows not to cross, this is the line you need to make. All well saying you love her but as the relationship becomes more and more one sided, the more that love will be strained and the unhappier you will become.Sort it dude before you lose any input into youre relationship.
 

·
Car work on a budget, a very SMALL budget :(
Joined
·
3,080 Posts
Tell her to sell her car and get a bus pass. When she moans at you point out now she knows how you feel.
 

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #13
I was expecting replies along the lines of callin me a wuss lol

I know what your sayin about being unhappy if it carries on and i know that it wont go as far as that because i wont let it.

I have been telling her these last few weeks about not being happy about the no friends situation and she does understand but she doesnt see my point on my car being my one little joy if you know what i mean
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
1,496 Posts
Take all her shoes/clothes/make up/perfume (I don't really know what women like to collect) and hide them, when she gets upset/angry tell her that's what it's like losing your skyline.

A lot of birds don't understand how much a car can mean to a bloke, I'd rather sell my mum into prostitutuion than sell my skyline :dogpile:
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
647 Posts
Don't sell your car. Politely point out you moved to her area, near her friends and family and your car is your only hobby left. If she doesn't/won't understand tell her that's the way it is and she's gotta deal with it, cos you ain't selling. If she is at all bothered about anyone but her self she'll be happy to let you keep your only interest?
Only way my car ever gets sold is if we are being turfed out the house instead!
 

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #16
Lol she doesnt see it as a car she sees capital :( my plan is to keep it advertised then after the next mot just say I've spent too much on it now lol
 

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #18
We bought a house so the money would go on that :/ lol

The thing is she doesnt see things like i do women are a strange breed lol
 

·
Administrator
Joined
·
25,962 Posts
i was in the same boat as you mate many years ago and i moved away to be with the ex and had nothing of my own except my skyline because i bought that instead of a house...went down well but my reason was i will always have the car when we get the house but its harder to get the car after you have the house.

now again im moving about an hours drive away from my work and family but this time its been a mutual decision and one im really happy about plus louise has told me that no matter how tight money is she WILL NOT let me break the skyline as she knows how much it means to be.

i would follow louise wherever she needs to go but only because we have both spoke about it and we are both happy to do it if you dont sit your wife down and have a serious heart to heart then you will resent her and that will lead to hate and well you can guess where from there mate.

if the 32 is your only vice then whats her problem?? i know a member on here that was in exactly the same boat and he always regretted selling his 32 but they split and he is now happier with someone new.
 

·
Mmmmmmm R32
Joined
·
2,151 Posts
Discussion Starter #20
Lol i wont be splitting i have no intention of divorce ever.

we have a weekend away booked in a couple of weeks to go to my cousins wedding I'll be sitting her down and having a chat then coz she'll be more aware of how much i miss being in Wales lol
 
1 - 20 of 29 Posts
Top