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Well guys it just gets better. NOT.

A while back the wife wanted to split and we had the house for sale and i was looking for another house.

I then found she left her Facebook page open with a great deal of photos of her and this other guy. (Not nice, porn).

The laptop was on standby when I opened it as my eldest boy was just about to.

I kept a record of about 10 pics.

She now says she's seeing him again.
WTF.

She begged me to make another go of our marriage about 6 mths ago.

Omfg. Totally devastated, again.
 

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Tough news mate but its happened to all of us at somepoint. My advice is start the ball rolling on moving on with your life. Time to think about yourself and your children. Sure it will be a nightmare for a while but as always things get better over time. Chin up bud.
 

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Sorry to hear this mate, you know my feelings about it, I would of got rid a long time ago. Its **** mate, but fook her off and start enjoying youre life,whats gone is gone, look forward to the future !
 

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Sorry to hear this bud..... but yeah I agree with dragerboy on this, time to move on and start a new life for you and the kids, there' never going to be any trust between you two ever again. So I'd just get out of it, keep it civil for the kids but honestly move on!

But you can always take a little revenge, by signing up to a swingers or dogging site using the pictures you found with her and the other guy and both their contact details. :)
 

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Thanks guys. Just out for a walk ( which isn't what I do) to try clear my head.

I hope it goes ok, it's gonna be a nightmare house hunting again.

Just realised gotta get a job 1st. Fook.
 

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Share the pics or it didn't happen...
Bad taste joke mate and gutted for you.
I have no idea how old your children are but hopefully of an age that aren't mother dependant buddy.
It certainly doesn't sound that she's put the effort into making your relationship work and is being rather selfish.

If it was me I'd quite likely do time by taking a crow bar to the bloke but that's just me and I'm not saying that's the answer.
Do you know the chap involved?
Does he know she's married?
It could be she's made out shes single.
When do these meets take place? Do you have a lot of time apart?

Really sorry to hear mate.

I've never been in this situation and I don't know the circumstances but to me there's only one solution. Kick her out of your home and go for custody of your children.
Give her a bad name and fight the courts for custody as she's clearly far too interested in her own needs to meet your children's needs.

May well be worth checking the Computer tmp files for downloaded email attachments!

Lastly and probably most importantly..... Don't get mad get even.
Go and pick up a younger better looking model. A younger sister or friend should do nicely.
 

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The chap involved is a work colleague living nr London.

I'll do my best to get even, ill bide my time.
 

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Kids are the main worry as its eldest birthday next week then Xmas.

We'll keeping it amicable til after Xmas then we will sell up and off we go.
 

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best thing to do keep it decent between you till bday and xmas out the way then go your seperate ways

on the plus side doing this gives you plenty of time to plot revenge is this guy in a relationship at the moment if so a few photo's to his partner should get the ball rolling
 

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Yes your right.
 

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whatever you do dont let the situation beat you. things are sent to try you and when it doesnt break you it WILL make you a stronger person

use it a reason/motivation to better yourself
 

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whatever you do dont let the situation beat you. things are sent to try you and when it doesnt break you it WILL make you a stronger person

use it a reason/motivation to better yourself
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I'm feeling a tad better since this morning that's for sure.

Just watching need for speed with my 2 boys, so feeling the love.

I'll keep ya posted
 

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sorry to see this mate you must be gutted,but there is a saying,1 door clossing,another 1 opens.i have found through live this is the case maybe not straight away but it will happen,hope you get through it mate and come out a better man all the best
 

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If it turns sour (sounds like it already has), do NOT move out. My boss was in this situation and his ex took everything even though she did the dirty on him.

Stay in the house until it is sold and gets split. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it's how it is.
 

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If it turns sour (sounds like it already has), do NOT move out. My boss was in this situation and his ex took everything even though she did the dirty on him.

Stay in the house until it is sold and gets split. I know this is not what you want to hear, but it's how it is.
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I'm staying put til sold, then divorce, already started proceedings from the 1st episode earlier this year.

Thanks for support guys, it's much appreciated.
 

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not much more can be said as most of us dont know all the storey however hope you get sorted soon buddy
 

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not much more can be said as most of us dont know all the storey however hope you get sorted soon buddy
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Thanks matey.

@ 53 years old it's a bit of a shock.

Keeping the skyline though.
 

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Been there also right where you are now.

My solicitor at the time told me as angry & devastated I was, the best thing to do is walk away with nothing. Nobody can fight a battle without ammo.

Best advice I can give you is to walk away with your head high. Don't ever retaliate. Then nothing can ever come be thrown back in years to come. Be the better man. Go forwards & never backwards. Open a new chapter and the sun will return soon enough after riding out the dark days.

Now years down the line. My grown up kids see me as the better man.

Just get through each day best you can for now.
 

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I can see why blokes just want to forget it and move out, but ....

My boss caught his wife committing adultery, got it proven and then his solicitor advised him to move out, so he did. Then he finds out the the courts have allowed her to keep the house as he moved out. She then moves the other bloke in (out of work builder). My boss then has to pay the mortgage and other payments. She also gets half his pension! They now have 3 holidays a year and just built an extension on the house that he pays for.

And she did the dirty on him. He then got other advice, that if he'd have stayed in the house and been amicable until it was sold, it would have been a whole lot different as the court canot force you to leave your own house.

I'm not saying that this is what is going to happen here, but be damed careful before making a move.

Hope all goes well. Good on you keeping the skyline :cheers:
 
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